A Delusional Lover in Recovery

Dear Big Sis,

So, boom...... there's this guy, and when I tell you he's fine? Whew.

We met through Instagram. I liked one pic, he liked three, and boom he was in my DMs talking about "you look familiar"

He could ruin my life, and I might let him. At first, it was giving main character energy. He would give good morning texts, Random memes during the day, Late night convos that got deep FAST. But here's the gag...4 months later the good morning texts turned into "you up" and "pull up." Now he only pops up after 10pm.....and somehow, he's always "busy" during the day. Every weekend he says that he's "resting". I'm not gonna lie I pulled up twice or maybe four times so see what he's up too. My best friend says he's giving "situationship", and he definitely got a girlfriend, but my heart says, "maybe he's just bad at communicating." What if I push him away by asking what we are? Do I chill? Do I ask? Do I block? I'm confused. When he calls my brain forgets everything except how good he looks, UGH! Am I wasting my time? or should I keep playing it cool until he's ready for more?

Anonymous,

Delusional lover

Sis, let's be honest........

If he wanted to talk to you at 2pm, HE WOULD.

If he wanted to take you out in the daylight, HE WOULD.

If he wanted you as his girlfriend? YOU'D ALREADY KNOW.

You're not confused. You're just hoping the truth is a lie. A man who only arrives after dark doesn't get access to your heart. And real love? It doesn't text "you up?" Real love says "I made reservations. You free tonight?" Fuck that dude you can definitely can do better. We have to understand when we are being used and we are being loved. Baby girl leave that fuck boy alone. He could be trying to find himself or maybe not even ready but he don't have to dragging you along without telling you whats up. You're not asking for too much, you're asking the wrong man. Let's leave 'de;usion" in his phone and move your standards back to your heart.

With love.

Big Sis